I have an usual sense of style. I look a bit like my avatar, and my style is a mixture of hippie, goth and lolita complete with facial piercings etc.
Whenever I go outside, some loser (generally male – females just give the evil looks) feels the need to comment, by calling me "sick", "weird", "a freak" or making some inane comment such as, "oh my fucking God look at that girl". I am honestly a very quiet, socially awkward person – my style is the only thing that gives me confidence, since I was bullied a lot as a kid for less obvious idiosyncrasies. I find it hurtful sometimes, but more often than not, I just think, what the hell are they doing, and why aren’t they ashamed to be behaving in such an uneducated, animalistic fashion?
I am wondering, if you saw someone dressed a little oddly in the streets (I’m not THAT weird, just alternative. Think a less OTT version of Lady Gaga with more Japanese influence. For example today I’m wearing a "Be Happy" slogan t-shirt, a greyish short skirt, lace tights, purple Dr. Martens, and a purple bow in my hair – which is like my avatar) would you feel a need to comment a make a fool of yourself? Bear in mind I usually confront them unless I have earphones in. I also love this assumption I’m somehow mentally retarded or lacking in depth… I often get spoken to be aforementioned idiots in a verrry slooow way.
Personally, I fail to understand it. If I saw someone in the street with tattoos covering their entire body, multi-coloured hair and plastic icicles hanging from their neck, it would still not occur to me to say anything, because it’s just not my business to judge them and it’s totally lacking in social etiquette.
Opinions?
Jeez, I never realised how many ignorant people used this website. Why, pray, do I seem like a poser oh great modest one? Because I’m literate? Because I have a degree of self-respect? As I said, I’m socially awkward, in therapy, have only a few friends and never go out. I’m hardly a poser on that account.
I really despair of the human race. Thanks for helping, guys << sarcasm, in case you haven’t heard of it.
And I’ve been dressing the way I do for 5 years in an attempt to overcome my demons/issues with confidence. It would alien for my to dress "normally" now, just as it would be for you to dress "alternatively". Although I did seriously consider it the other day.
Condensed into one sentence: fuck off, you ignorant fools. If anyone wants to offer *constructive* opinions, I would like to hear them.
For the record, I have OCD, Asperger’s Syndrome and bipolar (manic depression) so conforming would be a little hard unless I was happy with being treated as a lesser human being.
Did you know that a mother hen will peck relentlessly at the deformity of its chick? They will peck and peck until the creature either dies, or is defaced of its original abnormality/individuality.
I suppose you could relate that to some extent to the situation here; you aren’t ascribing to what is a generally conformist dress sense, and therefore Will be demonized naturally by some elements of wider society. Its only natural to attack those who stray from the tribe.
What’s important to remember is that every single advancement human kind has ever achieved was spurred by people engaging in exactly what you are doing, resisting the norm. Don’t expect the average ignorant human to support your endevours of distinctiveness, because they wont. Welcome their ridicule, they are only ultimately, ironically, laughing at themselves.
There’s no need to feel alone, remember that there are other people out there like you, once more I’m sure you will enjoy their company more so than the mundane average you have described. Leave them to laugh at themselves.
Josh